there's nothing saying that unselfish kindness and something called 'character' can't co-exist in a person. many of you make it sound like: very nice person = hay guise, please take advantage of me. sigh 1m365m

"Being too nice is painful to others?"
in my opinion , it depends how the person judges her / his view of the word
A person can be the type that can't stand a nice person ' cause in this person mind , the nice person is someone trying to get attention or want to make this image or the person just can't deal with person that likes to help or somethin ...
but in the other side for the nice person it can be a pain too 'cause the nice person is taken advantage.
people get acomodate by this fact and kinda of " explore " it .

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there's nothing saying that unselfish kindness and something called 'character' can't co-exist in a person. many of you make it sound like: very nice person = hay guise, please take advantage of me. sigh

I think that's the difference between being nice, and being TOO nice. 😃

Nice = Do things for others when you can, but when you can't, or you can see that doing it for them will be detrimental in the long run, turn them down kindly.

Too Nice = ALWAYS say yes when anyone asks something of you, even when it causes problems for you or will be detrimental to the other person in the long run.

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I would want whomever I'm dating to be nice to others, but I wouldn't expect them to always be nice. However, if they were too nice, it might feel a little unappreciated, but if they would still do things that make me feel special every now and then, I think it would be okay.

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Hmm, yeah, I guess. I dislike it when some people just can't say "no". I have to it that I have difficulty saying "no" as well... if the person is asking a favor for the FIRST TIME. Second time in a short time period is kind of meh-ish... Third time I just straight say "no". Enough is enough, bud. 😐

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thats a contradictory question. The Person who is being nice would not see the damage they cause after all its just them being who they are and if they do manage to realize the pain they cause they would stop being nice = no more pain.
So anyone who is being nice and actually answer this is not nice at all. >:-(

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You know you are special when your significant other shares somethings only with you.. I go for a shy/quiet type generally, not willingly, its like thats the kind that falls on my lap 🙄 ..so I dont face that much, but I do get jealous if someone else is in confidence with my guy...

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Rather than being "nice", I would call that sort of person "the sort who cannot say no", from experience.
In other words, indecisive, a trait I really dislike in people of either gender.